My ideal mate?

I normally dislike doing tags. Because it means I've to normally reveal more personal things about myself, or actually, it is beacause I don't have really much interesting thing to share about and most of the time I can't think of enough things to answer or do a particular tag.

However, I recently noticed there are quite a few people doing this and sadly enough I got tagged, by quite a number of people. Anyway I think this tag is worth doing, quite interesting. So here goes..

Rules:
1. Tag victim has to come out with 8 different points about his/her ideal mate.
2. Gender of his/her ideal mate has to be mentioned.
3. Tag 8 other people and leave a comment on their blog.


Good communication & the ability to "click".
I think the most important basic ingredient you need to form a good and lasting relationship, especially in the early years, is communication. Both parties can be very much in love with each other but if they can't communicate and talk with each other comfortably and naturally, then this relationship will definitely not last. I can't imagine living the rest of my life with someone whom I could barely talked too, or worst, feel awkward everytime we are alone together.

Trust
Trust is also very imporant, both ways. I need to be with someone I'm able to trust and vice versa. I'm a very insecure person and my imagination would run wild if you know what I mean. I can't live with someone whom I'll be asking myself: "Where is she going? What is she doing? Who is she with?" everytime she goes out late. And I certainly wouldn't want her to think that of me too when I'm out and not with her. At the end I think this should be linked back to good communication. There wouldn't be any insecurities like these if they can read each other like a book.

Appreciative
I would certainly want someone whom is appreciative for every single thing I do for her. I would definitely try my best to provide her with everything in the world if I could, but it would be pointless and heartbreaking if she doesn't appreciate anything and take things for granted. Would be nice to be with someone who'll even appreciate even if you give her the smallest and cheapest gift and doesn't judge you or starts gossiping to her girlfriends about how cheap you are.

Dependant
I would love to be with someone who will be dependant on me, with moderation. Dependant, but not sticky. Because I'm the type of guy who believe in supporting for my wife, and kids. Yes of course I would want her to be independant too, but ultimately I would want her to depend on me for as much things as possible. To depend on me from financial issues, to the smallest things in life - like picking out what kind or what color flowers we should buy for our wedding reception =).
Don't misunderstand here to think that I am some control freak. Of course I would want her to also have a good occupation, to have her own group of friends to have fun with and also have a stand on her own opinion. Just saying that I would be there for her for anything and everything, and that she can come to me and lean on me for anything at all.

Beautiful. Where it really matters.
For those who know me well enough, I'm not the type of person who will be with a girl just because of her looks or assets. She can be the most beautiful and prettiest looking girl in the world with the best, most perfectly shaped body you've ever set your eyes on (e.g.: Jessica Alba); but seriously, how long do you think these will last? Sure she may look like nothing you've ever seen before when she's at her ripest age, but when she starts reaching her 40s, she'll literally become nothing you've ever seen before.
Beauty is only skin deep. What really matters is who she is inside. And if she's really the most beautiful person inside, than I would still definitely and certainly continue loving her even if she's unfortunate enough to get into a accident and scar her face for life. Because, after all, when you really truly love someone, just the scent of her hair, the touch of her skin and the smile on her lips is more than enough to experienced heaven's blessing...even if she's about to take her last breathe.

Understanding, patient and reasonable.
I would really need to be with someone who is understanding and reasonable. All my life I live with someone who is very unreasonable and everything BUT understanding. Imagine coming home from a tiring and stressful day of work only to find your wife nagging you on and on and on about every single thing that she think is wrong about you, and totally ignoring the fact that you are totally exhausted and would just need a little peace and quiet - that would definitely be a living hell and I wouldn't want to return home after work!
To add to that, I'm a person who handle stress very badly. Especially when things need to get done in a insanely short time, I am capable of losing myself and start scolding and screwing everyone around me who can't do what I asked perfectly. And I am extremely ashamed and embarassed and I really hate myself for this. So when all hell breaks lose for me and when everything I'm trying to do around me seem to be falling apart when my time is almost up, it would be nice to have someone who can be understanding enough to stand by me to let me know that everything is going to be ok and to also encouraged me.

Good in...bed
I may seem abit too young to add this but to be very honest, this is very VERY important in every relationship, especially in marriages. You have to admit it that most marriages turned sour because later on in their marriage, their sex life turns sour too. And this is when one person who needs more, will be tempted to go out to find more, and things will start falling apart. So yes, having a good and healthy sex life is very imporant, would even be better if my partner is adventurous - why confined sex only in the bedroom??

"To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish 'till death do us part."
But ultimately, this IS the most important. I would really hope that my ideal mate can hold on to: "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish 'till death do us part". In the end when we're old and living out our few final years of our lifes, we will have no one else but each other to hold on too. =)


*Editted*:
A little something I missed out.
There are some people who asked me whether I would date a non-christian girl or not, since I didn't state that above.

Well, the reason why I didn't state it above is because it didn't even cross my mind to ever date a non-christian girl! It's really impossible to picture myself to share my entire life with a non-christian partner. Even being together with a weaker christian partner will also eventually pull you down to self destruction. So...no, I will never date a non-christian girl. At least that's what I say now and I hope I'll stick to it because I'm really afraid of this phrase: "Love is blind".

Something funny..

Got this from Top Gear season 10 episode 5.



Jeremy Clarkson:
"The police in Hampshire are running an advert of a jolly policemen, in his tall helmet and putting him in the back of a bus.
It's fine, except for where the bus's exhaust pipe is."

Hahahaha...

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*EDIT!!!*

I ask Tiffany to check out this update and this was the MSN conversation..

Tiff: what so funny about it ?
Me: =.=""
Me: have u even seen it
Tiff: yeah
Me: or..did u READ
Tiff: yes
Me: =.=""
Me: errr. my blog u know
Me: the new post
Tiff: VHEH@ (I don't know what does it mean..)
Me: got a pic of a bus there
Tiff: I refresh it
Tiff: pulak it's bus's exhaust pipe
Me: u dun find anything wrooong with the pic?
Me: or more like the advert
Tiff: cap?
Me: huuh?
Me: omg
Me: can u please read that short sentence ah?
Tiff: whose making ur neighbourhood safer
Me: =.=""""""""""
Me: nooooooooooooooo
Tiff: Whawts wrong?!
Me: Read what Jeremy Clarkson said there.....
Tiff: I READ ALREADY!!!
Me: =.=""
Me: Seriously??
Me: SERIOUSLY???
Me: DON'T U THINK THE EXHAUST PIPE IS WHERE HIS DIC* SHOULD BE????
Tiff: LOL !!!!
Tiff: EYAH
Tiff: Didn't think about that
Tiff: I'm not smart as you ok

I wonder which is funnier. The advert on the bus or me trying to get Tiffany to understand what's wrong with it. Is she really sooo "innocent" or insanely blur?? Hahaha..

Some meaningful quotes I want to share..

Here are some of my most favourite quotes I've kept over the years watching TV shows (specifically, One Tree Hill), reading novels (YES I DO READ!!) and so on. I want to share it with everyone, and at the same time I can also have a place to archive it for the future. Because when I read these, it will really help take my mind of things. =)

In no particular order..
But the bold ones are my more favourite ones.

1. Truth is still absolute. Believe that. Even when that truth is hard and cold, and more painful than you've ever imagined. And even when truth is more cruel than any lie.

2. There comes a time when every life goes off course. In this desperate moment you must choose your direction. Will you fight to stay on the path while others tell you who you are? Or will you label yourself? Will you be honored by your choice? Or will you embrace your new path? Each morning you choose to move forward or to simply give up.

3. You ever look a picture of yourself, and see a stranger in the background?. It makes you wonder how many strangers have pictures of you. How many moments of other peoples life have we been in. Were we a part of someone's life when their dream came true or were we there when their dream died. Did we keep trying to get in? As if we were somehow destined to be there or did the shot take us by surprise. Just think, you could be a big part of someone elses life, and not even know it.

4. Every song has an ending, but is that any reason not to enjoy the music?

5. Every once in a while people step up, they rise above themselves. Sometimes they surprise you, and sometimes they fall short. Life is funny sometimes, it can push pretty hard, but if you look close enough you find hope in the words of children, in the bars of a song and in the eyes of someone you love. And if you're lucky, and if you're the luckiest person on this entire planet, the person you love decides to love you back.

6. "Henry Wadsworth Longfellow wrote: 'All are architects of fate... living in these walls of time.'" "Henry Wadsworth Longfellow wrote: 'All are architects of fate... so look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again.'"

7. It Is Better To Have Loved And Lost Than To Never Have Loved At All.

8. Lives better---money, popularity, fame---we ignore what truly matter--the simple things-- like friendship, family, love--the things we probably already had.

9. Oliver Wendell Holmes once said: Many people die with their music still in them. Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time runs out.

10. Perhaps we all give the best of our hearts uncritically to those who hardly think about us in return. - T.H. White

11. "You hide at home all the time, study like a good boy. When a golden opportunity comes your way, you don't want to admit it. You choose to believe you're just not that lucky."

12. Feels like, just when everything has fallen into place, something always comes along and changes everything.

13. People buy things, make friends, not for love. But just to be a little happier in their lifes.

14. That one moment, just before anything happened. Everything is perfect.

15. "Happiness doesn't come cheap. Hell if it did we would all be smiling."

16. Sometimes pain becomes such a huge part of your life that you expect it to always be there, because you can't remember a time in your life when it wasn't. But then one day you feel something else, something that feels wrong, only because it's so unfamiliar. And in that moment you realize you're happy.

17. At this moment, there are six billion, five hundred two million, eight hundred sixty seven thousand, one hundred and twenty people in the world. Give or take a few. And sometimes all you need is one. For better or for worse.

18. George Eliot once wrote: "There is no despair so absolute as that which comes with the first moments of our first great sorrow, when we have not yet known what it is to have suffered and be healed, to have despaired and recovered hope."

19. "There are two tragedies in life: one is to lose your heart’s desire. The other is to gain it". - George Bernard Shaw

20. "Do not look back and grieve over the past, for it is gone. And do not be troubled about the future, for it has yet to come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful that it will be worth remembering." - Ida Scott Taylor

21. "Time takes it all, whether you want it to or not. Time takes it all, time bears it away. And in the end, there is only darkness. Sometimes we find others in that darkness, and sometime we lose them there again." - Stephen King

22. "What a frightening thing is the human, a mass of gages and dials and registers. And we can read only a few. And those perhaps not accurately." - John Steinbeck's The Winter Of Our Discontent

23. "Regret comes in all shapes and sizes. Some are small like when we do a bad thing for a good reason. Some are bigger like when we let down a friend. Some of us escape the pangs of regret by making the right choice. Some of us have little time for regret because we're looking forward to the future. Sometimes we have to fight to come to terms with the past and sometimes we bury our regret by promising to change our ways. But our biggest regrets are not for the things we did, but for the things we didn’t do, things we didn’t say that could save someone we cared about especially when we can see the dark storm that's headed their way"

24. Because it´s only when you´re tested that you truly discover who you are. And it´s only when you´re tested that you discover who you can be. The person that you want to be does exist, somewhere in the other side of hard work and faith, and belief and beyond the HEARTACHE and fear of what life has.

25. Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold. - Zelda Fitzgerald

GayVPN

Last week, I finally managed to sign up for a VPN (Virtual Private Network! Still don't know what is it? Wiki it, lazy to explain here) slot after months and months of waiting. And full credit goes to Ben Lee for helping me to get my slot.

Now, VPN is a MUST for people who just loveeees to support piracy download TV series, movies, music albums, p0rn, or anything you can get from Torrents of the internet!

So why is it a MUST? Let this picture speaks for itself...




Click for BIGGER view, la!

Oh, and I forgot to mention that I'm actually connected through my Nokia N95 on 3.5G HSDPA network.

p/s: Okay laa, to be honest it wasn't 255.5 KB/sec all the way. It was actually fluctuating constantly between 230KB/s - 280KB/s. =)

p/p/s: The max I can get with Streamyx so far is only about 196 KB/sec. But that was using my company's 512Kbits account. Haven't tried it with my personal 1Mbits account yet, still no time to settle my outstanding bill. xD


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*EDIT* UPDATE
So about 15 minutes after I submit this post, I started blog hopping when I suddenly noticed this..

It became WORST MORE GAY!!

A very gay speed of 330KB/sec !

At first I thought this is just burst speeds which last a few seconds. But then it got even faster and now it is constantly between 345KB/s - 360KB/s. Oh mann..feels so good seeing speeds like these =p.